Dare to Forgive—Yourself
Forgiving is hard.
People hurt us and from our first day in Sunday School we are taught to forgive, so we try.
I’ve found there are several levels of forgiveness—or my ability to forgive.
That person who laid on their horn behind me or even that person who cut me off in traffic, I’ve forgotten before I even reach the next traffic light. The one who said bad things about me in high school, well that will take a little longer to get over. As I move on through the list of transgressions, I can list this one or that one and the level of hurt, betrayal, and/or pain seems to determine my willingness to let bygones be bygones. Ultimately, I think I do fairly well with forgiving. After all, that is what I was taught to do and I want to do what is right.
There is, however, one person who I continue to blame for her failures. I question her judgment and choices. I look her straight in the face and ask her, “what were you thinking?”
She constantly asks for forgiveness and brings up things over and over again. Even things I thought we’d already discussed. Things I thought I’d forgiven her for. Things I know she’s asked God to forgive her for, but here we are visiting the same things over and over again.
I take these concerns to God. I tell Him I don’t know how to deal with her—with me.
Why can’t I forgive myself, when I know I’ve asked for forgiveness and I know God’s Word tells me I am forgiven. (“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness” I John 1:9 MEV).
I know one of the biggest reasons I am so cautious when doing anything is, I don’t want to make yet ANOTHER mistake.
Can you identify with this feeling?
God has been walking me through my past and has shown me how His Word promises to forgive.
Psalm 103:12, says, He takes my transgressions and has removed them as far as the east is from the west.
That is pretty far because West and East NEVER meet!
But this is not the only thing, He also showed me that the blood of Jesus covers my sin. When I accepted Christ as my Lord and Savior, His sacrifice paid my debt. A debt I could NEVER pay (Romans 3:24-25).
Now I am walking in the call on my life to share my journey with you. I can now see how those things that happened to me along with the choices I have made—both good and bad– ALL have brought me to where I am now. To such a time as this.
God is turning my mess into a message of hope. His hope! I am learning day-by-day to walk as the new creature He created me to be.
Do you continually beat yourself up for the choices you’ve made?
STOP right now and know what the enemy meant for evil God can and will use for His good, but only if you will let Him!
What do you need to do today to accept your forgiveness?
How can I pray for you?
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