Once you reach the point of no return, where do you go?
True power comes when in making a choice and sticking to it. Look at the caterpillar; when she decides to build her cocoon, there is still a lot of work to be done before she bursts forth as a butterfly.
Marilyn Monroe is famously quoted that when someone asked her who she was she replied, who do you want me to be.
I spent my entire life trying to be whatever it was that other people wanted. I tried to make everyone happy, and in the long run, everyone was miserable, especially me. I joke that after my divorce I discovered I preferred mayonnaise over Miracle Whip. Each day I learn more about myself because I’m learning to be me.
This desire to be what others want is from a need to be loved and accepted, at least I know that is what it was for me. Every day I talk to or read about women who feel they aren’t enough because of the way they look, where they work, marital status, and if they have children or not; just to name a few.
Once I made my choice, this time drawing my line in stone instead of sand, the true battle began. As a student of human nature, I know firsthand how hard it is to move forward when the journey is a hard one. That is why it is so important to move on, no matter the price because the cost is just too high not to.
Even now as I write these words, I hear the doubt ringing in my ears, but now I know it is a lie! I am good enough; I am unique, created for a particular purpose and I will continue to move through this valley because I know I am not alone.
I believe I had to go through the struggles, divorce, fear, and anxieties to know that I made it.
When I was on the other side of my pain, I didn’t think I could make it out, but I did.
This is but another example of how I can walk through fire and allow that flame not to burn me but cause me to rise out of the darkness as a phoenix.